Question
I was in love with a muslim man only.He told me lie regarding his name and work. Then by forcing me he have sex with me.By telling that if he want he any girl will have sex with him but he love me. When i got pregnant he said not to call him again and his family doesn’t me. Now my family want me to marry hafiz-e-quran. I am confused what should I do now. I want to die cause when someone ditch life will be of no use.
Answer
Life is much more than the errors or poor judgments we make. Life is an opportunity; a chance to learn and improve. Knowing this will, God willing, help us improve. Your situation has occurred to many others before you. Indeed it is an unfortunate situation. However, all is not lost. You still have God to turn to. Once you have asked Him for help and drained yourself of sorrow you must pick yourself up and start heading in the right direction. If you were forced into sex that is rape and you should involve the authorities. Do not allow him to get away with his crime because of whatever fears you have. Moreover, if you are pregnant with his child he must own up to his responsibilities. If your family wants you to marry someone and you are in agreement then do so, but you have to be honest and tell the person of your circumstances (if you decide to keep the pregnancy). This, I realize, could be devastating but you should not go into a marriage with any type of deception. If, however, you do not want to marry the person then you cannot be forced into it as that would be against Islam.
Right now things look bad but give it time and the proper remedy and things will look better. Then, as is the nature of things, you may have to deal with other issues. However, as long as you keep yourself strong and maintain your relationship with the Almighty healthy then you should be fine. Try to make the right decisions and do not take the matter of “love” so lightly. You may be having a child soon. Your world will be very different. You have to be strong for yourself and your child.
God be with you.
I hope this helps.
God knows best.