JazakALLAH for your reply it has helped me alot.
i would like to add further details to my question so you could help me further.
i agree to what you said that our parents know more and want whats good for us. but the thing is my parents would agree to nikah its just that his mother doesn’t want nikah yet as were young. i truly understand his mother but we wish to have nikah to make us halal and also study hard and make our parents proud and later have a ruksati. but his mother would not agree. my parents won’t allow me to have nikah if his mother is not agreeing but otherwise they would let us. i would understand if they won’t let us have marriage for islamic reasons but they don’t want us to have marriage because we are 18. i understand that is young but AlhamduLilah we are serious about each other and wish for ALMIGHTY ALLAH S.W.T’s blessings. we wish to further study as we encourage each other. we just dont want to do haram. our parents are accepting that we like each other but me and the guy do not want to be in a haram relationship and do wrong.
would the nikah still be valid? my situation is hard we just want to do right. then later on when our parents want us 2 marry we officially, we will.
i will really appreciate your help.
The additional information you provided does not change the response. You say you want to do right but you are proposing to do wrong. What do you think will happen when you deceive both sides of your respective families? Again, I have to reiterate the fact that you are heading in the wrong direction since you have to hide something so wonderful from your and his parents. It seems that you are only thinking about how you feel and what you want to do “legally” but not thinking about the bigger picture. I do not question your seriousness but you should realize that many many young people have made the same claim only to discover that there was a lot of growing to do but by the time they found out, it was too late. What protections will you have if the relationship does not work out? Who will you run to when it is time to deal with reality? Besides, what sort of marriage would it be if you live at your home and he lives at his and you will get together for the fun part of “marriage?” Again, I really hope you consider deeply your circumstances. I previously wrote:
Nevertheless, you are allowed to establish a legal marriage contract (Nikah) without either side’s parental agreement. There are laws in your country that you are to follow so keep that in mind as well. You should have your witnesses and this should not be considered a secret marriage as secret marriages are prohibited in Islam.
This is still applicable to and answers your current question.
I hope this helps.
God knows best.