| | Title: What was Ayesha's (ra) Age at the Time of Her Marriage to the Prophet (pbuh)?
Question:
What was Ayesha's
(ra) age at the time of her marriage?
It is normally believed that she was
nine years old at the time of her marriage with Mohammad (sws) was consummated.
I do think it was according to the traditions of the Arab culture, as otherwise
people would have objected to this marriage. But unfortunately, the modern day
man is not satisfied with an answer as simple as that.
Answer:
To begin with, I think it is the
responsibility of all those who believe that marrying a girl as young as nine
years old was an accepted norm of the Arab culture, to provide at least a few
examples to substantiate their point of view. I have not yet been able to find a
single reliable instance in the books of Arab history where a girl as young as
nine years old was given away in marriage. Unless such examples are given, we do
not have any reasonable grounds to believe that it really was an accepted norm.
In my opinion, the age of Ayesha
(ra) has been grossly misreported in the narratives of the incident. Not only
that, I think that the narratives reporting this event are not only highly
unreliable but also that on the basis of other historical data, the event
reported, is quite an unlikely happening. Let us look at the issue from an
objective stand point. My reservations in accepting the narratives, on the basis
of which, Ayesha's (ra) age at the
time of her marriage with the Prophet
(pbuh) is held to be nine years are:
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Most of these narratives are reported only by Hisham
ibn `urwah reporting on the authority of his father. An event as
well known as the one being reported, should logically have been reported by
more people than just one, two or three.
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It is quite strange that no one from Medinah,
where Hisham ibn `urwah lived the
first seventy-one years of his life has narrated the event, even though in Medinah
his pupils included people as well known as Malik
ibn Anas. All the narratives of this event have been reported by
narrators from Iraq, where Hisham is reported to have
shifted after living in Medinah
for seventy-one years.
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Tehzeeb
al-Tehzeeb, one of the most well known books on the life and
reliability of the narrators of the traditions ascribed to the Prophet
(pbuh) reports that according to Yaqub ibn Shaibah:
"narratives reported by Hisham
are reliable except those that are reported through the people of Iraq".
It further states that Malik
ibn Anas objected on those narratives of Hisham, which
were reported through people of Iraq (Vol. 11, pg. 48 - 51).
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Meezaan
al-Ai`tidaal, another book on the narrators of the traditions of
the Prophet
(pbuh) reports that when he was old, Hisham's memory suffered
quite badly (Vol. 4, pg. 301 - 302).
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According to the generally accepted tradition, Ayesha (ra) was born about
eight years before Hijrah.
However, according to another narrative in Bukhari (Kitaab
al-Tafseer) Ayesha (ra) is reported to
have said that at the time Surah
Al-Qamar, the 54th chapter of the Qur'an
, was revealed, "I was a young girl". The 54th Surah
of the Qur'an was revealed nine years before Hijrah. According to this
tradition, Ayesha
(ra) had not only been born before the revelation of the referred Surah,
but was actually a young girl (jariyah),
not even only an infant (sibyah)
at that time. Obviously, if this narrative is held to be true, it is in
clear contradiction with the narratives reported by Hisham ibn `urwah. I see
absolutely no reason that after the comments of the experts on the
narratives of Hisham
ibn `urwah, why should we not accept this narrative to be more
accurate.
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According to a number of narratives, Ayesha
(ra) accompanied the Muslims in the battle of Badr
and Uhud.
Furthermore, it is also reported in books of hadith and history that no
one under the age of 15 years was allowed to take part in the battle of Uhud.
All the boys below 15 years of age were sent back. Ayesha's (ra) participation
in the battle of Badr and Uhud
clearly indicates that she was not nine or ten years old at that time. After
all, women used to accompany men to the battlefields to help them, not to be
a burden upon them.
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According to almost all the historians Asma (ra), the elder sister
of Ayesha
(ra) was ten years older than Ayesha
(ra). It is reported in Taqreeb
al-Tehzeeb as well as Al-Bidayah
wa al-Nihayah that Asma (ra) died in the 73rd year
after hijrah
when she was 100 years old. Now, obviously if Asma (ra) was 100 years old
in the 73rd year after hijrah, she should have been 27 or 28 years old at the time of hijrah.
If Asma
(ra) was 27 or 28 years old at the time of hijrah,
Ayesha (ra) should have been
17 or 18 years old at that time. Thus, Ayesha
(ra) - if she got married in 1 AH (after hijrah)
or 2 AH - was between 18 to 20 years old at the time of her marriage.
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Tabari
in his treatise on Islamic history, while mentioning Abu
Bakr (ra) reports that Abu
Bakr had four children and all four were born during the Jahiliyyah
- the pre Islamic period. Obviously, if Ayesha (ra) was born in the
period of jahiliyyah,
she could not have been less than 14 years in 1 AH - the time she most
likely got married.
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According to Ibn
Hisham, the historian, Ayesha
(ra) accepted Islam quite some time before Umar
ibn Khattab (ra). This shows that Ayesha
(ra) accepted Islam during the first year of Islam. While, if the narrative
of Ayesha's
(ra) marriage at seven years of age is held to be true, Ayesha (ra) should not even
have been born during the first year of Islam.
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Tabari
has also reported that at the time Abu
Bakr (ra) planned
on migrating to Habshah
(8 years before Hijrah), he went to Mut`am
- with whose son Ayesha
(ra) was engaged at that time - and asked him to take Ayesha (ra) in his house as
his son's wife. Mut`am refused, because Abu
Bakr had embraced Islam. Subsequently, his son divorced Ayesha (ra). Now, if Ayesha
(ra) was only seven years old at the time of her marriage, she could not
have been born at the time Abu
Bakr decided on migrating to Habshah. On the basis of this report it seems only reasonable
to assume that Ayesha
(ra) had not only been born 8 years before hijrah,
but was also a young lady, quite prepared for marriage.
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According to a narrative reported by Ahmad
ibn Hanbal, after the death of Khadijah
(ra), when Khaulah
(ra) came to the Prophet
(pbuh) advising him to marry again, the Prophet (pbuh) asked
her regarding the choices she had in her mind. Khaulah
said: "You can marry a virgin (bikr)
or a woman who has already been married (thayyib)".
When the Prophet (pbuh) asked about who the virgin was, Khaulah
proposed Ayesha's (ra) name. All
those who know the Arabic language, are aware that the word "bikr"
in the Arabic language is not used for an immature nine-year old girl. The
correct word for a young playful girl, as stated earlier is "Jariyah".
"Bikr"
on the other hand, is used for an unmarried lady, and obviously a nine year
old is not a "lady".
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According to Ibn
Hajar, Fatimah (ra) was five years
older than Ayesha
(ra). Fatimah
(ra) is reported to have been born when the Prophet
(pbuh) was 35 years old. Thus, even if this information is
taken to be correct, Ayesha (ra) could by no means be less than 14 years old at
the time of hijrah, and 15 or
16 years old at the time of her marriage.
These are some of the major points
that go against accepting the commonly known narrative regarding Ayesha's
(ra) age at the time of her marriage.
In my opinion, neither was it an
Arab tradition to give away girls in marriage at an age as young as nine or ten
years, nor did the Prophet
(pbuh) marry Ayesha
(ra) at such a young age. The people of Arabia
did not object to this marriage, because it never happened in
the manner it has been narrated.
1st
May 1998
The answer to this question is primarily based on the research by Habib
ur Rahman Kandhalwi (urdu) as presented in his booklet, "Tehqiq
e umar e Siddiqah e Ka'inat", Anjuman
Uswa e hasanah, Karachi, Pakistan
That is, the migration of the Prophet (pbuh)
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