Question
Salam alaikum
My husband lies about his coditions to get benefits. I have tried so many times to tell him to find a job but it always end up in argument. Anyway 2 years ago he decided to get a second wife who lives in Finland. I am very upset as he doesn’t work and we have 4 children and been together for 24 years. I tried to be friend with her but i can’t as i realise that she isn’t sincere. I said to him that i don’t want anything to do with her but he wants us to meet again and spend Eid together but i am jealouse and he also said things she does to him in the bedroom. That discussed me a lot and i don’t want to see her again. He has changed with me. I can’t cope with it anymore and i want to divorce. Am i doing something wrong asking for diborce?
Answer
Wa Alaykumu Salam
You are well within your rights to ask for a divorce. From what little you say, if your husband is not living up to his responsibility and you wish to divorce him for that reason or any other reason you deem worth a divorce then you may proceed to dissolve the marriage. Divorce is not a religious infraction. It is a result of two people who are unable to maintain their bond. Of course, it is not to be taken lightly but God’s wrath will not pour down on those who divorce or wish to divorce. It is merely a fact of life.
I hope this helps.
God knows best.