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Forced Marriage

May 18, 2011

Question

Is it wrong to say no to a marriage proposal, My parents are forcing me to marry that guy, Ive tried explaining every body but my parents call me disobedient cuz im saying no to them, my brother is the only one on my side, my mom keeps on crying and emotionally blackmailing me that im the cause of her ilness, I dont want to hurt my parents, but i dont want to marry the man either, i dont think we’re mentally compatably and well now the situation is their not willing to hear me out and getting me married, they have already finaled the date and now its also about respect I dun understand what I should do? I have no intention in hurting my parents, will I be punished for hurting my parents when i had no intention should i get married for my parents and never be happy?

Answer

If you do not consent to the marriage then it is illegal. This is the pronouncement of God and no amount of pressure from parents or otherwise should ignore this command. Your parents are heaping guilt upon their souls and may not even realize it. You have every right to refuse any suitor presented to you. Saying “no” to your parents is not sacrilegious. If they are wrong then their wishes should not be fulfilled. If you are being forced and they are continuing the proceedings for such an illegal marriage then you should contact the authorities to guard your rights. You should not worry about being punished for not heeding or hurting your parents. Their hurt is a result of their obstinate demand to sap your happiness away for the rest of your life by marrying you off to a man you do not wish to be with. They are wrong and they should fear God.

I wish you the best and strongly advise against marrying anyone just to make others happy, whomever they are.

I hope this helps.

God knows best.

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