What is the point of life and being optimistic about the future if we dont know what is going to happen??? I am newly engaged and have a great fiance alhamduallah, but cant seem to enjoy him because i am so afraid that Allah will take him away from me, either now or in the future. Does every couple go into marriage thinking that they will grow old together?? i really dont know how to think optimistically anymore.
Thank you for your time..
If we could tell what was going to happen in the future how could we live life? There are things to ponder in a rational way and things that simply do not deserve our concern. Life is given to you to live, to experience, to deal with. You are given this life for a limited time, some shorter and some shorter than others. Not enjoying the time you spend with your future husband because you are worried that he will die does not seem wise as you are worrying about something you have no control over. God could take him or you or both or just allow you to live into old age until death reaps you. Everyone will eventually die; worrying about when or how it will happen will use up a lot of emotional and even intellectual energies not worth wasting. You are grateful for having him in your life and that is a good thing, continue with that positive thinking and enjoy every moment. If you are so concerned about death then live life to the fullest as best as you can. People, naturally, would want to marry believing that they would grow old together and just because this does not happen for some we should not all forsake a healthy, happy relationship. Cherish the beautiful moments and let go of the illusions that are rendering you hopeless. Trust in God and His Love and Mercy and be thankful for the life you have and for finding someone so wonderful.
I hope I have clarified the issue.
God knows best.